Tuesday, 23 October 2012

Children Learn Through Example

“Children will not remember you for the material things you provide but for the feeling that you cherished them”
 - Richard L Evans

I wish more people would appreciate this.

You can give a child all the experiences possible in life but if you do not value and respect them, this is the thing they will remember most about their childhood.

Some of the conversations I have overheard and witnessed during my lunch break make me so sad for some children.

“Someone needs a good hiding”  - from an elderly lady about a child crying for a new toy
“You are an idiot” – from a parent walking in the street with their child.
“Get in your f****** pushchair”  - from a parent dragging their child along by the arm

The list goes on….

I recently posted about this on twitter and it was suggested that maybe I should not be so quick to judge, I do not know the parent, the child, or their situation, it was suggested that it could simply have been a one off, a bad day.

I appreciate that there will be occasions when I should not judge so quickly but my concern is that if this is how children are treated in public, and the type of conversations and language they are exposed to in social settings then what are they witnessing and hearing in the confines of their home?

Is a child walking slowly really that much of a hindrance to you?

Is their tantrum because a parent wont buy them a new toy really so difficult to watch?

The old lady commented that the child needed a good hiding! Is that really the way to teach the child they can not have everything they want in life? Instead of judging that mother why not offer her a supportive smile.

We have all been there and if you haven’t then just appreciate that she is trying to teach her child a valuable lesson. Dealing with those incidents are stressful enough without other people offering their “advice”.


Married, single, mum, dad, well off or struggling, manners and respect cost nothing to give, nothing to teach and yet often mean more than any physical offering.

A young boy, probably only around 5 years old recently held the door open to me at work. Its surprising how such a small simple gesture brightened my day.

Do not get me wrong, I am far from a perfect parent, I lose my patience, I raise my voice, I am not always the parent I want to be but I would like to think that I show my children love and respect and that they know this.

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